Define Success For Yourself.

Don’t aim for success if you want it; just do what you love and believe in, and it will come naturally.~ David Frost

Doug's idea of success!

Doug’s idea of success!

We know what’s best for ourselves

In our last post about success, Doug and I decided that what were taught in the past doesn’t necessarily translate into success for us. We’re our own monkeys, just like you are ( or chinchilla, or popsicle, or whatever you envision yourself to be).

We started thinking about what are the parameters of success for us, as individuals. We know we don’t need a fancy red sportscar, or the latest name brand anything… So, what is success for two monkeys trying to make it in the jungle?

Monkey rules for success

Doug and I rejected the conventional standards of success and felt we needed to define our own personal rules.  We came up with some ideas that will help guide us to success, as we define it, and will let us know when we’ve reached it. Monkey success is reached with the following rules and ideas:

  • Believe in myself- No one knows better than me what I need to do to be content. There will be no more second guesses or hesitation based on past fears. I’ve formulated some sound ideas to reach success, and I trust my judgement.
  • Stick with the ideas- I need to continue believing in what I know I need to do… No more second guessing based on, yes, fear…
  • Provide Value- I’m not a salesperson. I need to create products and ideas that provide value to others. I don’t want to have to talk others into believing what I offer is worthwhile… I want my creations to speak for themselves.
  • Allow success- I need to allow success to happen. I can’t derail my efforts because of fear of failure, or worse, fear of success. Working hard and producing quality results will naturally lead to success. I have to let the energy progress as it should.
  • Help people-  To feel truly successful I’ll need to provide goods or services that help others. I’m not a car salesman, and never will be. I need to provide true value. Everyone has issues they’re dealing with, and I’ll know I’m successful when I can help others address their issues.

These rules will help me make progress towards the life I envision. Knowing what you want, having rules to measure and guide forward momentum and being fearless in your execution are sure ways to reach contentment… Doug and I are on our way. What about you?


Think about what success means to you. How can your definition of success help you reach your goals? Write down the following:

  • What are your personal rules of success?
  • What will help you know you’re on the right path?
  • How will you know you’re successful?

Don’t let others define success for you. Write down what it means on a personal level and compare your progress to your definitions. Using your definitions as a guide and map will help you stay on track, and reach contentment in life.

Success is different for everyone…


  1. Hey, John – great post and so true. I just wrote a post that will be published on Wednesday based on a Mark Twain quote that is along these same lines. Great minds! It’s so good to challenge ourselves – what do I want – what brings me joy. Keep up the good work – I enjoy reading your posts. Love, Pat

    1. Thanks Pat- I’ll be looking forward to your post…

  2. Thank for stopping by my blog. I love your site. You&Doug make a great team! Yes to this post. To thine own self be true 😉

    1. Thank you! We’re trying to share the monkey way…

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  4. Hi Doug,

    Thanks for visiting my blog! I love to meet other healers around the world; looks like you are putting yourself out there and leaving your thumbprint available for all.

    Looking forward to reading more,

    Diana Ray

    1. Hi Diana- It’s nice to meet you as well.Thanks for stopping by my blog!

  5. boobooda7 · · Reply

    Doug, your pictures are awesome. Thoughts that come to mind: childrens books, cartoon series, other books of interest and seminars on creativity. Go after your dreams Doug! You have real talent here and as we enter the Aquarian age, we are all meant to let our lights shine.

    1. Thanks for the encouragement! Books seem to be the logical first step… Both children and adult.

      I’m thinking about a line of inspirational, funky t-shirts too, and maybe some prints…

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