Why Do You Starve Your Imagination?

When we lose our spiritual child then that is when we have grown old.~Stephen Richards

We Limit Ourselves

We  have in our lives only what we think we deserve and can imagine. If you feel you’ll never be happy, wealthy or healthy, you’ll be right.  Our beliefs limit our success and contentment.

Doug is just acting for this shot... In reality, he has an overactive imagination!

Doug is just acting for this shot… In reality, he has an overactive imagination!

No matter the circumstances in the outer world, our inner self dictates how we perceive life. If we can’t believe (imagine) that we will get out of debt, we’ll always be in debt.

Even if someone paid off the debts and provided a fresh start, someone with an “in debt” mindset, who didn’t make efforts to change it, to expand their imagination about what life could be, would soon be in debt again.

Somewhere along the path of life, most people give up on their dreams. They accept that “this is how life is”, and stop imagining more.

Sure, they may play the lottery and hope that one day they’ll hit it big, and life will be better.

This doesn’t take imagination though… It’s a desperate last effort to change a life situation that has already been accepted… It’s a survival mechanism.

This is where the importance of visualization comes into play. Athletes are coached to visualize themselves winning the competition- to run it through in  their minds beforehand. They’re told to build the pathways in their brains to know what success feels like… imaginary success.

Don’t be afraid

It works. Before success in anything can be achieved, it must first be imagined. Many people are not in touch with their imagination though. This leads to insecurity and fear… Sometimes fear of the very thing you most desire.

Fear limits what we dare to dream about. Dreams are change. Change is the unknown, and it will remain so unless it is thought about, imagined and accepted as good.

It’s easier to remain static than it is to change. It’s easier to have vague ideas about life “being better’ than it is to imagine a path to actually make it better. Humans prefer the known, the comfortable, to the unknown… even if they’re unhappy with the known.

“It could always be worse” is a common phrase we tell each other that makes us feel better about not changing. Yes, it could be worse. But, it could also be a lot better…

Why don’t we imagine our lives better instead of imagining things being worse? Why is the default mindset focused on stability at the cost of happiness?

We hope to find out through writing this series…


How healthy is your imagination? Do you usually think about what can go wrong instead of what can go right? Are your visualizations limited to worrying about what might happen, usually bad?

Think of something in your life that you’re not happy with. Now, imagine it being different… Did you go towards good or bad? Think of the situation in a positive way. Give the image life… How far can you go before you start sabotaging your visualization? If you’re like most people you’ll start telling yourself “this will never happen” or “this isn’t reasonable”…


Next-Why is imagination important?


  1. When we lose our spiritual child we go into spiritual death. We live as zombies. I have come across these people and when I tune into them I find that their soul is trying to leave their bodies in order to move on to an ego/body which can fulfill it’s soul purpose. You have all come here on purpose and for a purpose. The Piscean age beat up on this purpose in a horrific way. But we are all starting our lives ANEW. What is past is past. Do not tell your old stories. Do not hang onto the past. Go forward with your lives. Reconnecting with your soul is the best thing you can do for yourself. NEW LIFE is waiting for you !

    1. Thanks for sharing this Julie. I’m sure I’m not the only one looking forward to a new start…

  2. lovelyjo · · Reply

    Maybe the “sabotage” of the success visualisation is based on a feeling that all your dreams can’t come true, that’s only for the fairytale “and they lived happily ever after” scenario. Most people don’t achieve all their dreams before they die and that’s the reality. That’s not to say that I’m not behind the positive visualisation thing, I really am, I’m just trying to understand the self-sabotage thing because I do that. I imagine positivity and success, but only half-believe in it. And for it to work, you’re completely right that you’ve got to truly believe.

    1. I think we all sabotage ourselves to some extent. It’s the inner critic whispering in our ear, telling us all the bad things we heard growing up. I think we carry around all the hurt and insecurities we’ve collected since childhood. They continue to sap our strength until we recognize them as false and expel them…

  3. I love this. Some time about two years ago, I realized that I wouldn’t allow my visualizations for my dream life to go any further than a couple of minutes. Doom would inevitably step into the inner journey and I would stop. So now, I give myself the time to really enjoy and visualize big. It still is hard but I find as I allow myself to expand my visualizations, I allow myself to expand in my life and I am seeing some wonderful results. 🙂

    1. It is difficult to do, which is why many, myself included, aren’t living their dreams… yet. good foryou for recognizing this, and working to overcome it.

  4. Thanks for this post, Doug! We have an even greater responsibility to the younger generation by showing them by example that’s it’s not foolish or childish to dream and to actively encourage, rather than discourage from the perspective of our own disappointments, their highest imaginings for the bright future of their choosing. As it is and has been,e place too much focus on struggle.The regular practice of creating a space from stillness and quiet time for young children can eventually lead them to meditation when they’re older and will hopefully keep them full of self-belief and in tune with what their hearts desire and which they can instinctively know is still achievable on some level and to a greater or lesser extent at any age. I’m not an expert by any means, but it could work!

    1. You put forth some good ideas here. We don’t have to be experts to change the world… I’m certainly no expert on anything I write about, but that doesn’t stop me!

      Thanks for sharing your insight and ideas…

  5. What a wonderful reminder to the importance of imagination. I love how you related this to something that “grown-ups” can more easily identify with. I like to believe that I have incurable “Peter Pan Syndrome”, and live with a refusal to let my inner child grow up. Not that I don’t routinely complete my adult responsibilities in life, I just don’t allow them to overtake that part of me that still sees the world with wonder, and finds the sunshine in the darkest night. When I reach times in my life that I ignore that inner child, the threat of daily stresses can bend my mindset in the wrong direction, and the more negatively that I begin to think, the more negative my life seems to be. Once I can awaken that inner child again, and find that ability to dream, and see my world with that “happily ever after” mindset, my luck follows suit, and I am able to pull myself back up. I love this post!! 🙂

    1. Thank you! I still lover Peter Pan, and think of myself as a bit of a Lost Boy…

      I don’t know who decided that grown ups can’t have active imaginations,and that all our time must be spent “getting ahead”, but they did us all a great disservice.

      1. I have to wholeheartedly agree with you there. I feel like if I don’t let my inner child have fun, she may have quite the tantrum, which usually results in nothing good for me! LOL.
        I don’t wanna grow up, I’m a Toys R Us kid! I can still look at a stuffed animal, and wonder, even if only for a second, if I hurt his feelings by leaving him on a shelf instead of cuddling him, lol. Sure, we all have to grow up and “be responsible”, but who says that we can’t still play??

  6. Great post John.

    It is a constant practice for me to focus on opportunity, on moving forward, realizing and accepting weaknesses and concentrating on strengths. It has always been easier for me to fall into negativity especially when I was caught in the vicious cycle of substance; a cycle created by self-limiting beliefs, dealt with by drug and alcohol use which of course feeds into further negative thinking.

    Even after learning a healthier way to live it can be difficult to remain positive. Your exercise to teach one the importance of visualizing potential outcomes and the paths to them is exceptional. While it is a challenge for me to utilize my imagination in the way you have described I find it to be a thoughtful, creative and useful tool for self-discovery.

    Thank you! Challenge accepted.

    1. Hey Glenn- Thanks. I’m glad you’re accepting the challenge. I too,deal with a tendency to be negative. It’s only in the past few years I’ve worked to overcome it. It’s still there, but I’m aware of it and combat it when I see it creeping around the edges of my mind…

      To me, that’s part of being a healthier person… Fighting negative feelings. I’ve accepted it will probably be a lifelong fight…

  7. Hello there from two fellow Gen Xers, John. This is Leon of the Solitary Thinkers, blogging with Plutonia from the ruins of Greece, living amidst a silent genocide the world knows very little about, and really having no idea how much time we have left in the heart of this carefully planned debt crisis. I am honored to have received a like for my [“In Case Of A Military Mobilization”?] post by a spiritually creative brother like yourself, and I wholeheartedly agree with you on everything you have to say. I chose to comment on this post, because I need to express my love and support to all brothers and sisters who are undeservedly drowning in debt, without ever having adopted an “in debt” mindset or having ever lived beyond their means; it happens all too often these days, especially in devilishly defamed and mercilessly plundered countries like Greece. I am certain, dear John, that you are very much aware of the fact that we are not the only ones shaping our realities and that there are many unseen forces at work, and exactly therefore I am grateful to you for focusing on what each of us can do to light the way, however pointless we are led to believe it is to even attempt reconnecting with our higher selves and with each other. We do not need the mire of fear and guilt; what we do need are just the high vibrations of love. We are determined to keep it up, aren’t we? Warmest regards, Leon.

    1. Hey Leon- Thanks for taking the time to post your thoughtful comments. I’m sorry to hear about the situation you find yourself in… I fear that the USA may be on the same path- it just may take a bit longer.

      We’re set up to fail and the only way to overcome this is to break out of our boxes, think for ourselves and become self sufficient in as many ways as possible.

      This is why we moved to the country, grow our own food and raise chickens… I didn’t realize this until after being saddled with huge student loans though.

      Keep up your efforts… Like you say, we may be told it’s useless, but it isn’t. Spread the light…

  8. Your compassionate reply is such a solace, John. “Self-sufficient” has always been my middle name, but we are under so many asymmetrical attacks here, that we have been reduced to sitting ducks; still, we are beings of light rejoicing with meaningfulness. Thank you so much for your encouragement, and many blessings to you and your family. I have bookmarked your oasis of a blog. Leon.

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