Disorder In Life And Back Again.

Confusion heard his voice, and wild uproar Stood ruled, stood vast infinitude confined; Till at his second bidding darkness fled, Light shone, and order from disorder sprung. ~John Milton

Where is my white picket fence?

Disorder and unexpected change are a part of our lives. There’s a shift occurring… in society, in business, in spirituality… in everything. Becoming untethered in our comfortable stable lives is upsetting and fraught with anxiety… and something that is happening more often, to more people.

Many of us are losing our jobs, our homes and all security we thought we had. Disorder in life seems to be the new way of being. The rug has been pulled out from under our collective feet, and individuals often react in two ways… Hysteria or numbness…And both accompanied by disbelief.

The old way is passing but the new reality hasn’t shown itself yet. No, we’re not talking about religion or spirituality and monkey love. I came to this conclusion by taking an honest look around at life… At our reality. I would have to stick my head pretty far into the ground to not see that change is imminent…

Soldiering on!

Soldiering on!

“Sure, everything is going down the drain” you say. “This is just fear mongering fed to us by the media” quips another of you…

But it isn’t. It’s truth, and it’s nothing to be afraid of. In fact, I believe we should all be celebrating…

I’m going through a complete reboot of myself and of my life, and I’ve been sharing it here. It’s difficult and it’s stressful, but it’s also wonderful.

Yes, I’ve had to do lots of new things that are outside my comfort zone to get by. The good thing about comfort zones though, is they expand easily.

I’m seizing the opportunity to fashion the life I dream of. No, I’m nowhere near achieving it yet, but I’m on the path. All I need to do is keep moving forward, and one day I’ll arrive.

But I’m S-S-S-Scared!

Transition is difficult. People in transition often feel confused, frightened and helpless. I did… That’s what we get for being complacent. “What am I going to do?”… “Someone help me!”… “Solve these challenges for me so I can get back to reality tv!”…

Being scared and feeling helpless gets old quickly.  So I stopped… And I thought, and I beat my head against a wall until I realized that I have a great opportunity to just be me…

Actually, I just woke up one day and decided I didn’t want to feel like that anymore, or ever again. so I changed. just like that. ~Anon

Rules? Who needs ’em?

When the rules change and there is no established way, it falls upon ourselves to make a way. No one is going to save us. I want more from life than being a wage slave working under foolish and petty people.

Should I go pick a new career off the magic job tree? No, because if I want more than what society will give  me, I have to create it myself. (If anyone has a magic job tree, or any kind of magic tree, send me some seeds please).

We have to create our own order in our lives. We have to create our own security. It isn’t being handed out with a gold watch anymore.

Change causes disorder, which leads to fear and numbness… But it doesn’t have to be that way. I’m grateful I was forced out of my comfortable life and made to be true to myself. I’m embracing the change. With creativity, I will fashion the life I always dreamed of. Out of the disorder I will create new order, and it will be just how I want it.

Disorder is inevitable at this time. How we react to it, and what we gain or lose is entirely up to us…

No exercise for today… Next time we’ll work on making order out of disorder… The rules of life.

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  1. Well said, my child. Kelp agrees.

    1. Thank you, wise seaweed…

  2. jjwalters · · Reply

    I fully agree that ‘the times they are a changin . . .

    1. They are, and I’m tying to keep up with them…

  3. Hey, John – Great post. Celebrating change is so important. Not merely accepting – celebrating! Change helps keep us alive and new. All of which you point out very well in your post. Love, Pat

    1. Thanks Pat.I’m working on celebrating… I’m past the fear… I guess optimistic is a good word. But you’re right. I need to celebrate it!

  4. Nice post John, Yes embracing change, fear, and growth is key and often so hard too. You wax poetic very well with a little help from Doug! Happy Halloween, Brad

    1. Hey Brad- Thanks! Any parts that you think are good I wrote. The other parts are Doug’s fault…

  5. I’m also going through this process of attempting to become who I truly am. It sounds so funny to say, like of course I am who I am right? But I feel that so many of us have given up being the true reflection of our inner selves. For whatever reason, we have settled for a less than accurate version of us. Maybe it was being told so many times that our dreams weren’t practical, that we should grow up and join the real world. But what I’m coming to learn is it’s individuals who know exactly who they are and what they want who change the world, in however small a way, into what they want it to be. I’ve got a long way to go, and the truth is I don’t ever intend to “get there.” That’s the beauty of it is once this mentality really sinks in, that we are the arbiters of our fate, we realize that the point is not to arrive, but to be present.

    1. I agree with you about being present. The journey is the point… I’ve also incorporated the idea of goals, or arriving at them, into my philosophy. Yes, the point of life is the journey and not the destination, but I’ve found setting goals, arrival points, along the way keeps me motivated.Each goal then becomes a solid jumping off point for the next… I guess I see myself going through life, hopping like a frog.

  6. Completely agree. I am personally terrified of change: I try to avoid it at every cost. But I think I’m learning that it’s time to stop hiding and start confronting it, because who knows? Maybe it’ll turn out to be great, or at least not so bad.

    And I really like your illustration. He’s so determined yet cute!

    1. Thanks for stopping by… I just read your “about me” on your blog. Don’t settle for not so bad. You can be great… Decide to be, apply yourself to the goal and set out on the journey…

      1. Thank you so much for your inspiring words! Yes, I shall now embrace change and perhaps make it for myself. For I’m the one responsible for my life, right? 🙂

  7. Hey John and Doug –

    Not sure how this post from October appeared to me today but can I get an Amen?!

    I needed these words at this very moment. Because I’ve been patient and I’ve listened, and I now know it’s time for a new way of life for me. A new way of working that aligns with my spirit and the time is now.

    Sometimes I wonder if one can wait too long to move out on her dreams? Our intuition speaks volumes yet we don’t follow. No more!

    Thanks, guys, as usual.


    1. I reposted it…I think there are lots of new readers who haven’t read my earlier stuff about work, career, life and happiness.

      I’m glad the post reached you when you needed it! Maybe that’s why it was chosen.

      I don’t think there’s a time when it’s too late to follow your dreams, except for that fateful day we’ll all have to face. Until then, any time living your dream is a good time.

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